It completely disgusts me; low self-esteem, lack of self confidence, the continuous need of approval from others and the anxiety over what others might think. The folks that suffer from these “ailments” are easy to spot. They are in poor relationships, they don’t want to let go of the poor relationships, they are continuously sizing other people up, they are hardly ever upfront and say what’s on their mind and they continuously put themselves in the position to take crap from someone else.
Don’t worry, if you suffer from these ailments there is a cure! And it’s really not easier said than done…DO YOU! Yes Ladies and Gents that’s the simple cure. Wear what you want, go where you want, say what you want, stand up for yourself, maintain self respect and integrity, and don’t be afraid to tell people how you feel. Now I am not advising you to become a complete prick but stand up for yourself, just enough, to not be a doormat.
It’s been my experience, that in order for friendships to last with me, the other person’s value of themselves has to be high. For whatever reason, I just can’t seem to maintain friendships with people who have low-self esteem and a lack of self confidence. It’s hard at first when the friendship disintegrates (although its inevitable), but when I think about how much effort I have to put into that relationship, I begin to realize how much of a crutch I was to them and how much my abundance of confidence may have been a deterrent. The saying is true: birds of a feather flock together. My group of friends has evolved over the years but with each change, the likeness of my friends has evened out. I can truly say at this point I am surrounded by strong willed, go getter, no nonsense women. None of them are lacking in confidence what so ever; we can communicate, no ill feelings are harbored and we empower each other. Most importantly, our conversations are ALWAYS positive!I leave you with this: If you are in a friendship that does not go beyond gossip, the discussion of poor relationships, the comparison of material things and an abundance of he said she said….run, do not walk to the nearest exit. Drama is a form of entertainment; however, drama in your life is not something you should entertain—Find a better flock!